My Problem with the Law of Attraction with Today’s Guest – Jen Urezzio
I’ll be honest with you – I’ve got a major problem with the law of attraction. Every day I see some new coach talking about how they’re manifesting new clients, or a new car or their dream house. I’m not saying they shouldn’t want those things (hey, we all like nice things) nor am I saying The Law of Attraction this is all total BS – just that I have problems with how it’s talked about in much of the online space.
Sure I get the whole, ‘what you focus on grows’ thing. But what I don’t get is how much of this talk seems to focus on money – and usually from people who, as people living in western culture, are already in the top 10% of the wealthiest and most privileged people on the planet. I hate the way many people talking about the Law of Attraction get all in your face judgey about poor people having a ‘low vibe mindset’ and blaming people’s misfortunes – even natural disasters, on themselves.
Often [people] recall events in history where masses of lives were lost, and they find it incomprehensible that so many people could have attracted themselves to the event. By the law of attraction, they had to be on the same frequency as the event. It doesn’t necessarily mean they thought of that exact event, but the frequency of their thoughts matched the frequency of the event. If people believe they can be in the wrong place at the wrong time, and they have no control over outside circumstances, those thoughts of fear, separation, and powerlessness, if persistent, can attract them to being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Rhonda Byrne, The Secret
In a world as unequal as ours, it seems the ultimate in victim blaming to me. Those types of arguments ignore the whole structural and political impact on people’s lives and takes individualism to a silly level (miraculously leaving the richer of us – whether we’re talking individual people or governments, free to absolve ourselves of any responsibility for those less fortunate – because it’s all about their personal mindset, right?) On top of that, the logical conclusion is that ALL tragic events are in some way the responsibility of the victim – rape, illness, natural disasters… you name it, on some level you attracted it to you.
But at the same time, i know of loads of lovely, smart, kind, caring, wise, compassionate and politically switched on people who still believe in the LOA and do so without ever mentioning Ferraris, blaming victims or ignoring the fact that sh*t sometimes happens. So I decided to invite Jen Urezzio back onto the show as she’s my go to person for all things spiritual. I knew that Jen would let me ask all of my questions and raise all of my points – and lovingly, wisely, give me her opinion without being dogmatic.
So Jen and I sat down to address all of my questions and issues and we had an in-depth talk about why this spiritual law has become so wonky and tangled up with our cultures’ obsession with money and convincing ourselves we’re masters of the universe and in control of
In this episode about my problem with the Law of Attraction Jen Urezzio we talk about:
- Why money is like the gateway to the LOA for so many people, but the law itself has nothing to do with gold, cars of fancy shoes
- Why the money focus on the LOA doesn’t relate to some of us – but for others it is the tool for expansion.
- Why our western culture confuses the issue – especially the way we attach other meanings (like happiness, contentment, better relationships, attractiveness etc.) to money – when actually they’re unrelated.
- Why even believing in the Law of attraction as much as Jen does, it doesn’t explain everything that happens in the world (nor should it)
- Why visualising alone won’t make change without us taking action (or as Jen calls it, Divinely inspired action)
- That Jen believes that all of the spiritual platforms say the same things and people need to find the platform that resonates with them.
Links Mentioned in this Episode:
Jen’s website – Soul Language
Jen’s Facebook Group – Spiritual Renegades