Sometimes we move forward in our businesses with ease and other times…not so much. It can show up with a feeling of stuckness and like everything is out of whack. it can feel confusing to know whether this is due to the fact that you are genuinely out of alignment or deep in fear? (because that sucker is a sneaky MF)

Every month I co-host a podcast episode with Business Mindset Coach, Holly Worton. And today’s episode was inspired by a post that someone made in my Holly’s  Facebook group:

“Hey Holly, I’ve been thinking about something just lately, and wondered if anyone has some thoughts about this?
When you’re not making the progress you want in your business, how do you know if:

1. You’re reluctant to move out of your comfort zone and step up (in which case, it may be worth pursuing, gently); or
   2. What you want to do (or think you should do) is out of alignment with your values (in which case it should probably be abandoned)?

Both these situations can feel like fear, reluctance, or lead to procrastination. How do you tell the difference if it feels ‘off’ but you’re not quite sure why?

This is something I’d love to hear you and Jo discuss on the podcast!”

Today, using Holly herself as an example, we talk about the difference between misalignment and fear. Some people can “solve” this dilemma using logic, but those of us who are more intuitive can really struggle with being in this type of situation. The differences are very subtle, and it’s worth digging deeper into this topic to get clarity on what’s exactly going on so we can know exactly what to do.

What You’ll Learn

• How to determine whether you’re experiencing being out of alignment or deep in fear
• How to tap into the feeling behind what’s going on
• How Holly worked through the murky months in her business
• Holly’s journey from doubt to clarity on my business path
• How Holly identified the difference between fear and misalignment in her own business
• How to move forward even when you’re not 100% clear
• The questions you need to ask yourself to get clear on whether or not you’re in alignment
• How this fits in with the Why behind your business
• How to get clear on what type of fear you’re experiencing + the questions you need to ask yourself
• The things you need to pay attention to when you’re taking action

Things We Discussed

• Cara Wilde
• Tara Mohr’s blog post on fear
• Tanya Geisler

Airial Clark was raised by women who believe in women. As a single, Queer parent she’s raised men who believe in women. She believes in you too. Her therapist is still amused that Airial teaches women how to not give a f*ck because “Airial you give so many f*cks about so many people!” While this is true, Airial knows she can give the f*cks she gives because there are so many f*cks she’s refusing.

In today’s episode of The Meaningful Business Podcast, Airial Clark and I dig into what it actually means to be a woman and why we all give so many f*cks about things that aren’t in our best interests AND are therefore not that important (hint: Patriarchy!)

Let’s face it – Being a woman (yes, that includes all women identifying folks) comes with a lot of pressure –Feminine Conditioning tells us that we ‘should’ put other people’s needs above our own, look a certain way, act, think and feel a certain way.

“While the expectations of what women give a fuck about are universal, what each woman actually wants to give a fuck about is personal.”

As women we are repeatedly blamed for our own oppression, told we ‘asked for it’, are too loud, too nagging, too fat, thin, old, young, emotional something.

All women are constantly threatened by gender bias, sexual harassment, sexism, violence, and economic inequality. When we express dissatisfaction with the status quo, we’re told that we have a personal issue—as if we’re responsible for harm being inflicted upon us. If we just cared a little more, if we were just a little more confident, if we were just a little more accommodating, none of these bad things would happen, right? Hell No.

Airial Clark started giving talks and running workshops in the San Fransico area she wasn’t sure if there would be a demand for what she was offering. But as the first workshop quickly sold out, she found that she could barely keep up with demand – such was the appetite from women wanting to learn how they can care a lot less about the unimportant stuff that keeps us oppressed, so that they can free up precious time and headspace for the things that DO matter.

Now Airial is raising money for an ambitious tour with workshops, a podcast, a website and more, all dedicated to helping more women discover how to give less f*cks about what’s not helping them, so they have more time, energy and focus for the things that really do need to have a f*ck given about them.

Links Mentioned In this Episode with Airial Clark:

Airial’s Website

Airial’s Indiegogo page